Today's Lesson
I don't see how one could become friends under the guise of pursuing a relationship. It doesn't feel right. I'd rather keep talking to reach some kind of conclusion, and come out of another life experience with some sort of understanding about at least myself, but hopefully mutual.
Some women want emotional bonding like men want physical. They lock on to that, unwilling to consider getting to know one another at all as friends, and then maybe build upon that. Of going through a period without expectations or loaded exchanges, and just take the time to get to know someone. No, straight to attachment. Straight to the mess of emotional vulnerability, when intimacy is the most scary thing in the world. And do they really want intimacy? Do they know what that entails? That you're left completely naked and the slightest misunderstanding has the sound of a mountain breaking and crying and you just want to dress up the armour again and fight?
No.
Generally, where men go for physical comfort and touch, women go for the emotional counterpart, holding their bodies as a prize until the man meets their needs. Man feeds affection, gets pussy. Switch. Woman gives pussy, gets spooned. What a fucking weird cycle that little has to do with how strong lasting bonds between people are made. Loyalty. Attention. Respect. Care. Trust. Concern. Collaboration. Global values that are the cornerstone of every relationship, regardless of sphere.
Am I becoming anti-nature? Whereas before I'd engage in the cycle, yet now I recognise the pattern and naturally try to break it?
And then... Hold a friendship as a potential outcome or a consolation prize? We all know how these things go. How after you break certain lines, there's no going back. Friendship over the shambles of passion?
No, it doesn't work. I won't open up my heart to a stranger.
Here's today's lesson: If a woman needs emotional comfort to open up sexually, then I need camaraderie to open up emotionally. Spice Girls were right y'all.
Some women want emotional bonding like men want physical. They lock on to that, unwilling to consider getting to know one another at all as friends, and then maybe build upon that. Of going through a period without expectations or loaded exchanges, and just take the time to get to know someone. No, straight to attachment. Straight to the mess of emotional vulnerability, when intimacy is the most scary thing in the world. And do they really want intimacy? Do they know what that entails? That you're left completely naked and the slightest misunderstanding has the sound of a mountain breaking and crying and you just want to dress up the armour again and fight?
No.
Generally, where men go for physical comfort and touch, women go for the emotional counterpart, holding their bodies as a prize until the man meets their needs. Man feeds affection, gets pussy. Switch. Woman gives pussy, gets spooned. What a fucking weird cycle that little has to do with how strong lasting bonds between people are made. Loyalty. Attention. Respect. Care. Trust. Concern. Collaboration. Global values that are the cornerstone of every relationship, regardless of sphere.
Am I becoming anti-nature? Whereas before I'd engage in the cycle, yet now I recognise the pattern and naturally try to break it?
And then... Hold a friendship as a potential outcome or a consolation prize? We all know how these things go. How after you break certain lines, there's no going back. Friendship over the shambles of passion?
No, it doesn't work. I won't open up my heart to a stranger.
Here's today's lesson: If a woman needs emotional comfort to open up sexually, then I need camaraderie to open up emotionally. Spice Girls were right y'all.